For some, any major—or even small—purchase will elicit feelings of anxiety, regret, and even doom; however, even though you may be someone who is generally inclined to a bit of hand-wringing, when purchasing a home, it doesn’t necessarily have to be that way.
YOU CANNOT CONTROL EVERYTHING
For starters, let’s just address the obvious. Yes, purchasing a home is a huge commitment, both in terms of finances and time. Still, while a large part of that process may feel overwhelming and beyond your control, remember try to remember that it is often our need to feel like we must control everything that gets us into trouble.
Instead of fixating on everything that frightens you about owning your new home—or a home in general—remind yourself of all the reasons you made the decision to purchase in the first place. Whether you were tired of landlords or simply loved the possibility of having a big backyard, chances are good that you put in a lot of time, effort, and money to get to where you are.
As with most things in life, if you spend more time focusing on the good instead of ruminating over the bad, you’re likely to be a much happier person. Overcoming buyer’s remorse is no different. Fixate on the possibilities, the potential, and the parts that simply feel like home.
STOP AND THINK
All-too-often, we find ourselves feeling overwhelmed without taking the time to assess what we’re truly feeling. Where are those thoughts of buyer’s remorse coming from? Are you afraid that you won’t be able to afford the mortgage? Is there a lot of work that still needs to be done? Do you feel like it may be smaller than you expected?
Instead of standing still and continuing to stress, make a list of your worries and start by addressing what you can, one thing at a time. Take a Saturday to paint the guest room. Replace the lighting in the kitchen. By slowly crossing items off your list, you’re likely to feel that sense of dread lift, ever so slightly.
SHOW IT OFF
Hey! You just bought a home! That’s great! …and let’s be honest, it really is great! Not everyone is in a position to do that—no matter how much they’d like to be—so why not celebrate?
Throw a housewarming party, barbeque, or dinner and gather your loved ones for a celebration. Chances are better than good that everyone will be more than excited for you, so let a little bit of those good vibes remind you of how fantastic your new place is.
TAKE SOME TIME TO CREATE YOUR SPOT
Part of learning to love something requires finding a bright spot in what may otherwise be somewhat dim. When you take the time to appreciate one area of your home, chances are good that those warm feelings will spread.
Set aside a few spare moments to just sit in your new space—every day—and appreciate the things you love about your little corner of comfort. Whether it’s soft light at sunrise or open French doors, let this part of your house feel like home and hopefully, the rest will follow.
If you’d like to find your dream home and want some assistance with the buying process, I’d love to offer my services. Please feel free to contact me anytime.
Marie Dinsmore | The Dinsmore Team | www.DinsmoreTeam.com | 770-712-7789
